Evian.
Despite the Safe Drinking Water Act legislation, the public water system becomes contaminated across the United States of America approximately twice a year. Large quantities of females are impacted by becoming knocked up and/or acquire a diamond embedded within a shiny wearable accessory. This consistent, annual theme takes place every winter and again in late spring.
There has to be some kind of link between the cold, harsh conditions of January that lead people to want to a) stay inside, underneath warm covers…on top of each other, and/or b) kick off the New Year with a monumental life-merging initiative. As well as a connection between a) the warm, bright rays of vitamin D coming from sunshine in June that lead people to plant their own seeds inside an organic belly-shaped garden, and/or b) natural serotonin levels peaking from longer days which means more time outside, more exercise, creating more endorphins leading to blooming relationships being taken to the next level.
I can count on both hands as well as both feet the number of people currently preggers and recently engaged that I personally know. Right on schedule.
Sometimes it doesn’t faze me, sometimes it does.
Last year at this time, for example, Mr. Big & I had just broken up. And literally two days later, one of his closest friends who had dated someone a fraction of the time we had, took each other as fiancés. I was crushed. Not because I wasn’t happy for their happiness, but because I wanted what they had.
A year later, I’m in a very unique, yet familiar place. Everything has come 360. Back with my man friend, but still checking Single on my tax returns. Yet we could qualify as having a Common Law Marriage, as someone recently pointed out to me. I wholeheartedly know now that the best strategy is to gently reintegrate ourselves into the crevices of our daily lives again before sprinting down a petal-covered aisle, but I’m also so ready to *feel* like an adult.
I thank God for giving me youthful genes; people do not believe that I’m 30-years-old. A baby face is something I’ll never complain about. But that outer Johnson & Johnson persona masks my emotional state.
I don’t want to bar hop every weekend, or every other weekend for that matter. I don’t want to have a same sex roommate anymore. I don’t want to pay rent, or contribute to someone’s mortgage. I don’t want to worry about my fertility being in jeopardy in only a few short years. I don’t want to have to say good night to my partner over the phone. I don’t want to schedule seeing each other in the super short increments of time in between work/gym/sleep/traveling. I do want the government’s financial benefits of being married. I do want to have some substance to contribute among colleagues who only seem to yap about husbands and babies. I do want to host dinner parties among our coupled friends in a furnished dining room. I do want to decorate a new house together. I do want to grocery shop together, and co-carry bags back from the car. I do want to make two-person meals and not have to package 3 days worth of leftovers in Tupperware. I do want a backyard. I do want a dog. I do want a dog playing in the backyard. I do want to have yard sales. I do want to wake up next to my love every morning. I do want to fall asleep next to my sidekick every night.
It has never been about planning a wedding. In fact, it is quite the opposite for me. I have very little interest in the actual D-day details (which I fully blame on my myriad of past RSVP nuptial receptions) that I may have to begin drinking a bottle of bride juice when my time comes to get the stuff in my system. The glorified day-long party is just a symbol. For me, it has always been about incorporating my best friend into my daily life, period. No, I’m not quite ready to push strollers around and swap my Coach purse for a diaper bag. But I am ready to have a guest room that could easily be converted to a changing station if necessary. (For the record, I will likely get a Coach diaper bag. Yes - they exist).
Despite being one of the last few standing from my high school and college comrades to have absolutely no strings attached by way of marital contracts or offspring, [caveat: many of those former classmates have already gotten divorced… so I recognize that the grass isn’t necessarily always greener over there] I have and continue to put my trust in God that His timing is perfect, and that He’ll lead me to my husband. Obviously my wish is to take Big’s last name, but that too is TBD.
In the interim, while I patiently wait for love and life to sort itself out — hydrating with filtered, bottled water will continue to be my drink of choice.
